Going through dark times

Sébastien Dubois.
9 min readMar 21, 2020

Heads up: This post will not give you the keys or fix anything in your life, but it’ll give you some ideas about what might help you to shed some light around you. Also, I’m no physician, psychologist or shrink, so don’t take any of this as professional advice; it certainly isn’t!

If you’re really feeling bad and have dark and darker thoughts, please do yourself a favor and go see a professional.

First of all, this post is NOT about the Covid-19! This post is about how to cope with tough times in life, whatever that means for you. What follows are a few ideas of mine, nothing scientific, but steps that I’ve taken and that have seemingly helped me even if just a tiny bit.

When we’re in a depressed state, it’s really really hard to have positive thoughts. Depression is an illness, and like most other ones, it can be cured, so don’t despair (I know, it’s hard). Even if you can’t help but feel down, just accept that you’re suffering from an illness and that it’ll pass after a while, with or without medication.

There are a myriad of reasons why someone can feel depressed at some point in his/her life. It can happen after having lost someone important, after having been fired, because there’s too much pressure, too much stress on your shoulders, too little joy in your life or simply because you don’t know what to do with your life.

So far, I’ve felt really depressed only twice in my life. The first and longest lasting period was during my adolescence, during which life felt miserable most of the time, for various reasons..

I won’t give you the details of what happened to me as I’m not ready to tell everyone about it just yet, but I’ve gone through a rough few months lately.

At first, I didn’t really understand what I was going experiencing. It literally took me months and the help of some loving friends to realize that yes, I was depressed and needed some help. Of course there were lots of red flags all around me, but I simply didn’t accept the idea.

It’s just like the story about a frog that is gently put in water and doesn’t really feels it getting hotter and hotter.. until it’s too late.

When you look around in all directions and can only see clouds and fog in your life, it may just be time for you to pause and reflect for a moment.

There are times in life when you feel like you’re at a crossroads, completely lost, not…